Be Coachable

Those of you who think you know everything annoy those of us who actually do!

If you know me or have followed this blog, you know that I love a good quote. I enjoy sharing the wisdom and wit of others, especially those that have long since passed from this world. It is a way to learn a little about the personality, as well as the genius, of thinkers I will never have an opportunity to meet in this world.

The opening quote to today's post was a popular bumper sticker/sign/poster/office joke from about 20 to 25 years ago. Someday, I will do a post of many of my favorite over-the-top "I am the Greatest" sayings and phrases that I have picked up and used over the years. They are all meant in fun and have been used to get a laugh poke fun, especially within my family. This one makes a good point for a Life Lesson that I had to learn and others have shared with me about how they had to learn it as part of their growing process also.

I am a fairly intelligent person and learning has come easily to me throughout most of my life. I was once on the arrogant side when it came to learning in that I thought if I could receive, process, and regurgitate information easily, everyone else should be able to do so also.

Mathematics have always been something of a second nature to me. I can still often do computations in my head without realizing that I have done them. One of the struggles I had in school when I was learning math was that I was expected to "show my work." My thinking was, "why do I have to do this if I can just look at a problem and write down the answer?" As I advanced into high school algebra and geometry, I learned to reverse engineer problems to show my work. I knew what the answer was but I had to work backwards from the answer to get back to the initial problem. I irritated friends because they would ask how I got an answer and my reply was, "because that is what you do to get the right answer."

It wasn't that I was trying to be rude or unhelpful, but usually I did NOT know how or why, just that is what was needed to get the answer. To me simple, but to others, not so much.

So what does all of this have to do with being coachable?

Quite a bit, actually.

I bombed out at my first attempt at college, very much because I was not coachable. Learning had always come so easily that I had terrible study habits and NO ONE was going to tell me what I needed to do or how I needed to study once I got to college. This was not something that I wanted to hear. I thought I could continue to do the same things that I always done when it came to studying and still get by. And for a couple of classes, it worked. For others, it (and I) failed miserably.

Not being coachable worked against me in my professional career also. I have always considered myself a salesman to some degree or another. I also have an entrepreneurial itch. It hit me that Network Marketing would be a perfect situation for me. The only problem was that I thought I was so smart, I didn't needed to be trained or taught anyone else's system because I am so smart I can come up with a better idea than the person that had already created a wonderful business for them self.* Unfortunately for me, many lost sales and failed business attempts later, I finally learned that I am often not as smart as I believed I was.

On my last post ("Zest"), I talked about following our dreams. However, no one should open a business without some sort of business training. I don't need to open an auto repair shop without knowing anything about auto mechanics, or finances, or how to hire quality help. I would need to learn many things to be able to open an auto shop if that was my dream. That is not to say I can't pursue that dream but I would need to learn much. If I decided that I know how to repair a car better than a master mechanic, my business would almost certainly fail.

My encouragement to you is this: have an open mind. Listen to others, especially those that are "experts" or successful in the area you have an interest. Find a mentor. Take their knowledge to heart. Learn. And grow. Then finally, see where it takes you.

Final note: I also learned how to be a college student. When I went back to school, my GPA was 3.96. The only reason I didn't get 4.0 was because an A- was given a slightly lower numeric value than a plain ol' A. (Sad face on Eddy.) I had 3 classes where I earned an A-. I didn't get extra value for an A+ and I had 4 of those. (Sadder face.) I did make all A's while working a 40+ hour a week job and 16 hours of class time a week. Sometimes it pays to be coachable.

Smile!!

© 2009 Eddy Seegers

*One of the reasons that I was un-coachable as a Network Marketer was that I just felt that there was a better way to do it than what I was being taught. My mistake was that I should have allowed myself to be coached, learned to do it the way that many others had done it to be successful and then searched for the better way I felt must be out there somewhere.

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Wisdom From Mark Twain

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~Mark Twain

My time continues to be occupied by the project on which I am working. I am hoping this weekend signals the end of the major time and effort portion. I am feeling the physical and mental strain. In other words, I am tired.

I say this not for sympathy or any other reason than to say this. There are times when we don't feel like being positive. We don't feel like being happy. We are just not motivated. Yes, I know that we have the ability to chose our mood and to choose our attitude but there are times when we just don't want to do anything but be a slug.

By nature, I would be a couch potato. I could easily be one of the laziest people in the world, content to watch television, read a book now and then, and sit in front of the computer for the rest of the time that I am not in bed.

At times in my life, I was a person that was satisfied with just getting by. Then I heard the Hypnotist/Motivational Speaker Marshall Sylver during a presentation. He said something very similar to the quote from Mark Twain that opened this post. Mr. Sylver was talking about Risks, Rewards, and Regrets. He stated, "In twenty years, we are going to have either REWARDS or REGRETS."

Marshall went on to say that there might be a few occurrences where someone has a regret about something that he did, but most of the time, our regrets are because of things that we decided not to do.

Personally, I wish I had learned to play an instrument. I wish I had been willing to dance at a much younger age and maybe even taken dance lessons. (I have taken ballroom dancing but I wish I had done it at a much earlier age.) There are many trips that I wish I had taken. As Marshall Sylver was talking, I wish I had taken more risks as a young adult by trying jobs and possible career paths that now I think would be fascinating. I wish I had challenged myself more in school. I wish I had taken a chance at opening my own traditional business.

We all have our list of regrets of things that we wish we had done. Yes, there things that I did that didn't turn out so well. However, instead of regretting that I tried some of things, they make for a good laugh and a warm feeling inside that comes with having tried something different.

You know, it is just a small thing. However, while next Saturday looks like a good day to be a couch potato and relax and recharge, I think I am going to the museum. There is a display at the Museum of Natural Science that explores the human body and the brain. It will be leaving town soon. If I don't go, I know I will regret it because I am fascinated by this type of program. Next week, I will look for something bigger to dream and discover.

Why don't you do the same?

Smile!!

© 2009 Eddy Seegers

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A Quick Quote

"I am easily satisfied with the very best." ~Winston Churchill


So very often, we as a society and as individuals have "settled" for what we get in life. I think the best example is to remember the hopes and dreams most of us had when we graduated from high school. There were hopes and dreams. We were going to have the best of everything. We would own and live in a large, comfortable home. We would drive a top of the line automobile, if not two. We would have the job of our dreams and quickly move up the ladder.

Slowly, however, we began to "settle." First, we decided to settle on a slightly lesser degree in college or even with just taking some courses. Then we settle on a less than satisfying job because it paid the bills or met the needs of the moment. Next, we settled on the used, low mileage, run of the mill car. I could go on and on. Very few of us have not "settled", at least on some things.

Most importantly though, we have learned to "settle" for less than the best from ourselves. It is one thing to live a modest life with modest means, if we are giving our best. It is another, for us to live that life because we have not given our best. We cheat ourselves and others if we do not give our best.

As I have mentioned, I love to watch people. Too many people are willing to accept mediocrity. Too many of us are willing to go through the motions as we live our lives. Go to the grocery store sometime and watch people. Just observe and see how people behave. See how many people appear to be robotically moving through their shopping.

My challenge to you and to myself: don't settle. Learn to be satisfied with the best, especially from yourself. Be the best you you can be. Be the best worker, employee, boss, etc., at work. Be the best friend you can be. The best father, mother, son, daughter, husband or wife. In everything, strive to be the best. Accept only the best from yourself. Then you can learn how to to be satisfied with the best in everything else.


Smile!!

© 2009 Eddy Seegers

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You Gotta Have Heart

I have been a "Life Coach" for most of my adult life and maybe even sooner. I have shared with others based on things I have experienced or observed mainly because others have always seemed to come to me to talk. I have often joked that I was everybody's Big Brother.

It is something that I have not always appreciated. People have always seemed comfortable coming to me to share their thoughts, feelings, fears, concerns, and to often ask for advice. I have not always been comfortable with this because I felt like I did not always make common sense decisions. That is where the beginnings of my Life Lessons began. I would often just share experiences from my life, no matter how bad my own decision making was or how silly I had been.

With age came a little maturity. I started making better decisions and I started taking many of my own life lessons to heart.

The use of the word heart, as I was thinking about this the other day, reminded me of a great life lesson. You Gotta Have Heart. Enthusiasm. Passion. Desire. Drive. And probably a dozen other terms that go into describing what it means to have heart. Unfortunately, having heart is not something that can be taught. You either have heart or you don't. I once heard Mary Lou Retton talking about being a coach and a motivational speaker. Something she said hit home with me. She said, "I can't teach drive. I can't teach passion."

My personal experience in this goes back to my baseball playing days, especially during high school. I was not blessed with the greatest athletic ability. I am better than average for the most part, but there were plenty of people around me that had better natural ability. An interesting note is that I played every position on the field as a regular at one time or another. I was good enough that I deserved a spot on the field but I often had to fill in spots where there were weaknesses. I had an article written about me by the local newspaper my senior year that list my position as pitcher/infielder/outfielder. I was upset because they did not mention that I was also a catcher.

Before I get too far off subject, there were always players that had more natural ability than I had. However, I was often a more vital part of a team or accomplished more than those of with more talent. The one thing that was different was that I had a passion for playing baseball. I didn't become selfish, I thought team first. I could have said I play one position and demand that I play in that position. I found out early on that I loved to win. That often meant playing a position where I was needed most.

I played with many people that had more talent in one finger than I have (or had) in my whole body. More often than not, though, I had more heart. When we would practice and had to do drills, I never cut corners. We would have to do drills that involved repetitions of 50, 75, or even 100. Many of my teammates would cut a few (many) repetitions. I can honestly say that I did every repetition that was asked of me. It was because of this I feel I was able to overcome many of my natural shortcomings.

I had heart. I have learned the same goes for everything that I do. If I have drive, passion, enthusiasm, or any of the elements that make up having heart, I am successful

Going back to Mary Lou Retton's comment, heart is something that cannot be taught. I cannot tell you that you need to do this, that, or anything else to learn to have heart. We each have to look inside of our self to discover how to develop a passion. What about tasks that we dislike. How do we have a heart for something we don't like to do? Again, I can't teach you this but I can tell you how I find heart. With me, it is competition. I love to compete. If I find myself in a project I don't like, I find some way to make a competition out of it. I have to get creative sometimes but if I turn it into a "game", suddenly, I have a much greater desire and often get so involved in a project that I am sad when it ends because competitively I was not where I wanted to be.

Goofy, I know but it works for me. I encourage you to find what it is that helps you to have heart when it comes to things important in your life.

Keep Smilin'!!


© 2009 Eddy Seegers

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